Divorce Seminar Falls on Valentine's Day

William Darrah
William Darrah

HONOLULU (KHNL) -- Thousands of couples will get married or engaged this Valentine's day and many don't know the first thing about their rights if the love turns sour. KHNL News spoke to a divorce attorney who is actually holding a divorce seminar on the year's most romantic day.

Love is in the air this Valentine's season. The holiday is a popular time to pop the question. But when the flowers and chocolates stop coming, it's important to be informed about Hawaii's divorce laws.

"When you fall in love, it's kind of difficult to think rationally about everything you should be thinking about. People get married sometimes when they shouldn't," divorce attorney William Darrah said.

William Darrah has been a divorce attorney for 32 years. He says Hawaii is a no fault state. Which means a divorce is granted if both partners believe the marriage is irretrievably broken.

"People believe that when they get divorced, the financial outcome ought to depend on what happened during the marriage. Money is a very convenient thing to fight about when your heart is broken," Darrah said.

The first thing before considering a divorce is to rule out reconciliation. If that doesn't work then leave the emotion at the door.

"This is all about making a business deal as quickly as you can because the longer it takes the more it's going to cost and the more it's going to hurt," Darrah said.

Some couples are blinded by love and don't communicate their financial history which can cause a very bitter divorce.

"A couple who's getting married should provide each other with financial information about their own circumstances so people don't get into a situation that they weren't aware that they were getting into, most people don't do that," Darrah said.

Before you pop the question, ask 'what's your credit score?'

Hawaii's family court holds the divorce seminar once a month.

It just happened to fall on Valentine's day this month.