A Grieving Father Reaches Out

HAWAII KAI (KHNL) - It's been almost a week since a local teenage girl was killed in a traffic accident. Now a father who lost his son reaches out to her parents.

Kevin Williams describes his youngest son Matt as "very social."

"I'd get up around four o'clock in the morning, and I'd come down here and this living room would be filled with his friends," Williams said. "Literally there would be 20 kids down here and this is four o'clock in the morning."

A popular kid, Matt had a close group of friends.

"You turn around and see one, you turn around and see five," said Williams. "And then you see ten. That's just the way they were."

But everything changed one morning in the spring of 1998. Williams woke up to a knock on his door.

"The policeman asked me if Matthew was my son. I said, 'Yes.' And he said, 'We found his body. He committed suicide,'" said Williams.

He and his family were devastated.

"It's like .... everything stopped," he said.

Almost nine years later, Williams copes ... day by day.

"I got a hole in my heart that's never going to heal," he said.

So when Williams saw news coverage of the car crash that killed Jill Badua, his heart went out to her parents.

"I'd tell them to call me, call us," he said. "We'll come down and talk."

Williams said it's important to find people who can relate.

"It really helps to have people to talk to who have gone through it or are going through it," he said.

Williams said he'd give anything to see his son again to say these words:

"I'd just tell him how much I love him," he said.

Williams, his wife, and three surviving sons have joined an organization that helps families coping with the death of a child. To find out more about The Compassionate Friends, click on the link on this page.