Widow Turns Personal Tragedy Into A Mission To Save Lives

WAIMANALO (KHNL) - 2006 was one of the worst years on Oahu roads, with traffic deaths hitting a 16-year high. Now a Waimanalo woman is turning a personal tragedy into a mission to help save lives.

Harriet Seabury manages a flower shop in Waimanalo. She is also a wife, mother, and grandmother. She married Ramus, her high school sweetheart.

"We met at the gym," said Harriet Seabury. "I was working as a junior leader. He came up, riding on a horse and that's the first time I met him."

They eventually married and started a family.

"He went through coaching flag football, baseball, basketball," said Seabury. "He did all the fatherly things fathers normally do."

Ramus was also a loving husband, knowing exactly what to do when Harriet had a bad day.

"He'd have his arms open, he'd give me a hug and all my cares would go away," she said. "He would take care of everything."

But four years ago, Ramus was driving along this stretch of Kalanianaole Highway. A truck crossed the center divider, hitting him head on. He died at the hospital.

"That day, for all of us, part of us died at Olomana with him," said Seabury.

Since then, life has not been the same for Harriet.

"Everything he did, we did together," she said. "So it's like half of me is not here."

Harriet has this advice for those considering drinking and driving:

"Please don't because it could be your life that's going to be taken, and I'm sure you have children, a mother, father, brothers, or sisters," she said. "Think about them and how they're going to suffer."

A message from a wife who understands the pain of losing a loved one.

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